originally i was going to wait until my health stopped freaking out before i wrote a more cohesive and coherent post than the last one so this is essentially just That Post but with more information, but apparently my health decided to nosedive rather rapidly so i’m just going to bang out what i can in this clear spot between like, 30 different medications that all make me feel tired and complications that leave me sore and itchy.
through mostly pushing myself to run errands even when i physically felt i couldn’t and through monetising my hobby as a nail tech, managed to scrape together a full £2700+, enough for my mother, our two cats, and i to stay in a relatively clean budget hotel that lets you keep your animals with you under the express promise from my family that my grandmother’s house would be put up for sale in june/july and sold by august and we would then get our inheritance and we would finally finally be financially stable and free of this family. i was manipulated into spending £2000 of my saved money on doing the house up to selling standard, but assured i’d be paid back within the week at the latest.
six months later i have yet to see hide nor hair of my money back from them and the house was only put up for sale at the end of august, forcing my mother and i to spread ourselves very thinly to keep our bills paid and ourselves fed.
the good news is the house is finally being sold, albeit for a lowballed number, but the bad news is that because my family has….basically robbed me of my money (and are consistently lying and trying to run rings around us that they can’t afford to pay me back my own money while they do things like ‘take loans to go on luxury holidays’) we now don’t have that money to stay in a budget hotel, let alone to save for a deposit.
in response to this final fucking bastard move my family is trying to pull, my health has absolutely shattered in the past month. my chonic illness has flaired MASSIVELY and PAINFULLY to the point where i am honestly considering surgery to end it, and i have been struck with three stress-related conditions which all require medication that makes me exceptionally tired, and i’ve been back to hospital a further two times in two weeks, though thankfully not A&E again.
usually i would offer writing for money as i do in fact have a writing blog with a ko-fi but with my health as it is all i can do is mostly bedrest and attempt to get my strength back.
the ideal target we need to hit for moving is about £3300, which covers a two week budget hotel stay, moving vans, storage, and bills with a small amount to put toward a deposit, and currently i have about £800. honestly though, i’d settle for just my £2000 back.
i hate asking for money, i hate having to beg strangers for help even if they’re willing to give it, i hate the uncertainty, which is why i worked so damn hard to get that fucking money in the first place but i have to accept that i’m not going to be paid back and that my physical health is absolutely the priority for once, so i can’t push myself to work like i usually would.
if you can’t help with money, please just boost this post, i know we’re all poor and tired.
and finally please just keep me in your thoughts if you can because i have been in so much pain the past two weeks, i’ve cried more than ever over my health, and i’ve been genuinely scared a few times.
thank you ❤
as of today 28th November, we’ve been told we have to be out of the family house and in a new place by the 15th – 19th of December.
i can….just about cover the deposit and 6 months in advance and moving van (we dont get money from the sale of the house until another month after that date), but i can’t cover estate agent fees (anywhere between £500 – £950), so again, any help would be appreciated.
the end is in sight at least. soon i can get proper medical treatments and therapy…..
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how to compliment someone without seeming like a fucking creep. an easy how to guide:
a) compliment them on something that they can change. don’t say ‘nice tits janice’, say something like ‘your shoes are rad’ or ‘your hair looks great’.
b) don’t be a fucking creep. if it’d weird you out if it was said to you, then it’s likely too creepy to say to someone else.
EASY.
also this pic is super strawmanny and gross. it is not hard to not be a creep.
My most favorite compliment I’ve ever gotten I got from a man who was a complete stranger who drove up next to me while I was walking home at 9pm in the night:
I guess he saw me speed walk, overtake, then completely outpace some really tall business man in front of me (who had also increased his speed to overtake me back but failed).
Anyway this complete stranger doing the exact stereotype of what a man shouldn’t ever do drove up next to me, rolled down the window and said:
“That is the fastest damn walking I’ve ever seen. Ma’am, you…have the soul…of a bicycle.”
Then rolled up his window and drove away.
He didn’t creepily drive behind me, he drove regular speed and came to a rolling stop. He didn’t roll down his window all the way or stick his head out, he said his piece quickly and with a great amount of awe and respect, then he didn’t act like he needed a response from me or expect anything from the compliment. And then he left as quickly as he came. The compliment was so good and politely delivered that I’ve thought about it with amusement for over a year.
It is NOT HARD to not be threatening to women. Those who can’t manage it are sus as hell.
how to compliment someone without seeming like a fucking creep. an easy how to guide:
a) compliment them on something that they can change. don’t say ‘nice tits janice’, say something like ‘your shoes are rad’ or ‘your hair looks great’.
b) don’t be a fucking creep. if it’d weird you out if it was said to you, then it’s likely too creepy to say to someone else.
EASY.
also this pic is super strawmanny and gross. it is not hard to not be a creep.
My most favorite compliment I’ve ever gotten I got from a man who was a complete stranger who drove up next to me while I was walking home at 9pm in the night:
I guess he saw me speed walk, overtake, then completely outpace some really tall business man in front of me (who had also increased his speed to overtake me back but failed).
Anyway this complete stranger doing the exact stereotype of what a man shouldn’t ever do drove up next to me, rolled down the window and said:
“That is the fastest damn walking I’ve ever seen. Ma’am, you…have the soul…of a bicycle.”
Then rolled up his window and drove away.
He didn’t creepily drive behind me, he drove regular speed and came to a rolling stop. He didn’t roll down his window all the way or stick his head out, he said his piece quickly and with a great amount of awe and respect, then he didn’t act like he needed a response from me or expect anything from the compliment. And then he left as quickly as he came. The compliment was so good and politely delivered that I’ve thought about it with amusement for over a year.
It is NOT HARD to not be threatening to women. Those who can’t manage it are sus as hell.
The new campaign shines a light on homeless women who need assistance caring for their menstrual cycles. According to the Guardian, approximately 26% of people in the U.K. who receive “homelessness services” are female. But in most shelters, “sanitary ware or any kind of period ephemera is scarce,” Vice reported earlier this year. Three women have a plan to fix that.
The new campaign shines a light on homeless women who need assistance caring for their menstrual cycles. According to the Guardian, approximately 26% of people in the U.K. who receive “homelessness services” are female. But in most shelters, “sanitary ware or any kind of period ephemera is scarce,” Vice reported earlier this year. Three women have a plan to fix that.
US Border Patrol has just launched tear gas into Mexico. Breeze carrying it hundreds of yards. Parents running away with choking toddlers. #migrantcaravan”
And people wonder why I’m ashamed to live in this fucking country
I think God is one and the same and follow good doctrines of both
I’m atheist
I’m Jewish
And it’s often more subtle
Like a salesperson handing you two products and pressuring you to buy one of them, making you forget that
You don’t have to buy anything if you don’t want to
You can leave the store and buy something elsewhere
And sometimes it can be as important as
“Are you gay or are you straight?”
I’m gay
I’m straight
I’m both? So Bi?
I like no one, I’m ace.
I’m anything else, really, this is a spectrum and I define my own orientation.
So remember- If someone if pressuring you to pick between two choices, they’re probably trying to manipulate you by making you forget you also have another three options.
h holy shit
fuck
I am reblogging this for “information and resources” because it is very good.
but also, don’t EVER let tumblr make you forget that there’s another option:
You offer me an orange or an apple. I snatch them both, shout “YOU’RE ALL FOOLS” and run into another room
Anxiety-prone-human 